My partner has a saying that helps me keep myself from getting caught up in the stress, drama and weighty-ness of work situations – “We’re not saving lives here.” It’s a great reminder that I don’t need to put too much stress on myself over the little things. Since I have stepped into my role at Best Year Yet®, I have a different perspective on that saying.
As I’ve been working on ways to share the message of Best Year Yet® with people who have never heard of the program, I’ve gotten to read case studies, testimonials, and messages from people who have used the system and shared their experiences. Person after person relayed stories of moving from disappointment, boredom, lack of fulfillment, and settling for less into adventure, success, enthusiasm, and creativity in their lives and businesses. The results were mind-blowing, from sales teams that went from last place to first place in 12 months to a Heismann Trophy winner who talked about his improved relationship with his daughter.
That’s when it hit me – we really are saving lives here!
How many people are feeling stuck, bored, or like they are marking time rather than really living? How many people have interests, ideas, gifts, and passions that are languishing because they have let them go over the years or don’t make time to pursue their dreams?
Oscar Wilde famously said, “To live is the rarest thing in the world. Most people simple exist.” I know that I have had periods in my own life where I fell into that trap. What I didn’t hold onto was the truth that we are made up off all our parts and roles – in my case as a parent, a musician, a lifelong learner, a creator, a partner, a daughter, a counselor, a community member, a communicator and more. When I cut off parts of myself to spend more time on just the things I thought I should do to be a responsible adult, I found myself getting more and more uncomfortable with the life I was settling for. And unhappiness with where we are is something that tends to bleed into everything we touch.
What I now know is that we can’t ignore pieces of our true selves and expect to be happy or fulfilled. We do better in all our life areas when we treat ourselves as whole beings, with all the interests and roles we embody. Love music? Find some way to express it and watch how your energy for other things increases. Not getting enough outdoor time? Take a hike this weekend and see how much more clarity you have when you address issues at work. Feeling bored? Try a cooking class and enjoy the empowerment that comes with learning something new, something you can use to build wonderful moments with others over a magnificent meal.
While I am certainly not advocating that anyone chuck all their responsibilities and follow what’s left of the Grateful Dead around all summer (though some people would consider that an excellent use of their time), I am suggesting that you become your own champion – one who doesn’t let anyone or anything keep you from being the best, most self-actualized person you can be. Don’t stop dreaming. Instead, create a plan that can incorporate your dreams into your life in ways that make you feel whole. From that place of health, balance, and power, the sky is the limit with the results you can achieve.
Save a life today – your own.
About the Author
Originally from Nashville, Cathey lived a successful dual career as a psychotherapist and a working musician before moving into full-time marketing and communications. She received her BA in Broadcasting, working at the Nashville CBS affiliate before getting her Master’s degree in Social Work. A born networker, she has produced events ranging from national conferences and gallery crawls to spoken word performances, charity fundraisers and multiple-artist music events throughout the Southeast and Midwest.
Cathey is a certified Partner with Best Year Yet®, where she also serves as Vice President of Marketing & Communications. You can easily identify her in the mix by her slightly twisted humor, multiple music references in blog posts, and that little bit of Southern twang that will be there until the day she dies.