Comfort zones are interesting things. They can be an indication of mastery, such as when we feel most ourselves and are working in our wheelhouse. They can also represent something totally different, such as fear of change, avoidance of potential failure, simple complacency, and even laziness.
How do you know what the difference is for you?
Start with a fearless look at your life. Ask yourself the following questions:
- Is there anything that I feel passionate about that I am not pursuing? (This could be anything - a promotion, starting a new business, writing a book, carving out time for travel, art, outdoor adventures, losing weight, playing music, walking your spiritual path, personal development, etc.)
- If I make changes to pursue those things, what is the best and worst that could happen as a result?
- How could my life be different if I pursue it?
- How will I feel 10 years from now if I don't attempt it?
In interviews across multiple studies, older adults consistently report regrets about what they didn't do in their lives. Not taking action sooner or at all is a universal lament, with specifics such as:
- I wish that I had let myself be happier.
- I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
- I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings.
- I wish I had pursued the career I really loved.
- I wish I had put more effort into my relationships.
Take time to evaluate
If you find yourself coming up with excuses that are related to fear - failure, unwanted changes that might result from your success, the work it would take to make it happen, or the obstacles you might face - take a hard look at that truth and sit with it for a minute. Then, ask yourself - what could happen if you succeed? What positive changes could take place for you, the people around you, the world at large? Would it help you bring your best self to your daily life and interactions with others? Would it feed your soul? Would it help you create a personal legacy of which you would be proud? Would it inspire you and help you grow?
Our brains are built to protect us from change, going all the way back to pre-verbal times when something new and unknown could be the thing that literally killed us. Today, we obviously have a lot more tools and resources available to help us make change work for us and put it to use creating better lives for ourselves and others. Don't be afraid of the incredible person you are. Own it and claim it while you can.
Sometimes the place you are used to is not the place your belong.
~ Coach Katende (Queen of Katwe)
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About the Author
Originally from Nashville, Cathey lived a successful dual career as a psychotherapist and a working musician before moving into full-time work as the Chief Connection Officer with Best Year Yet. She received her BA in Broadcasting, working at the Nashville CBS television affiliate prior to getting her Master’s degree in Social Work.
Cathey has worked with nonprofits, community groups, start-ups and entrepreneurs as well as SMBs of all kinds. She has used her current role to expand her work through training and support of the Best Year Yet international Partner network,.
She is living her life's calling, helping change the world for the better one person, business and organization at a time. You can easily identify her in the mix by her slightly twisted humor, multiple music references in Best Year Yet® posts, and that little bit of Southern twang that will be there until the day she dies.