The answer to this question could lead to greater happiness and well-being in your life. Cars need regular checkup to keep them performing at their peak levels and so do we.
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The first step is to consider how you’d rate your current state of being. On a scale of 1-10, with 10 being the highest, what’s your score? Stick with your first thought ~ that’s usually the most accurate.
To improve it, start by looking at the results in your life, especially the ones you’re not happy with. It’s easy to think what’s stopping us are the external circumstances, but more often the problem is within. When I do this exercise to find the block, I discover what’s been motivating me are negative drivers, such as:
- Survival and/or fear
- Need to get even
- Drive to prove myself (because I’m not yet good enough)
Could one of these be lurking within you, causing you to feel stuck? Some time ago I was caught by the negative driver to have someone else make me happy. Let me explain.
I was estranged from a person close to me; he was angry and blaming me for his problems. It wasn’t until I discovered that my motivation was wrong, and that my job was to support and love him, instead of wallowing in my sadness. Gradually I made the shift to the even deeper motivation to contribute to his happiness and well being. My pain turned to unconditional love, and within several months the relationship was better than ever.
As the Buddha said,
Three things cannot long be hidden: the sun, the moon, and the truth.
When you uncover your negative driver, ask yourself this next question, What’s really motivating me?
Keep asking until you discover your true motivation, the one that’s always been there in your heart. When you know the answer, then whatever it takes to shift to your real intention is worth the time and effort it takes. As the accomplished explorer Edmund Hillary said,
I think it all comes down to motivation. If you really want to do something, you will work hard for it.
This question is the first one I ask a new client, and then guide him or her to keep going until their strongest personal values surface ~ the most meaningful motivation. Not only do their results improve, but also their connection with their deep well of wisdom is once again strong and powerful.
When your values are in charge, your happiness and well being increase naturally.
- In what areas of my life am I not getting the results I want? Which one is causing me the most pain?
- What negative driver is at work here?
- What’s my real motivation for this result?
- What’s my next step to make the shift?
If you’ve never made a Best Year Yet plan ~ or haven’t done one for awhile ~ you might consider doing so. Not only will you answer the questions above, but you’ll also receive a complete system for tracking progress on your key lessons as well as your ten top priorities for the next 12 months.
About the Author
Jinny Ditzler is the author of the best selling book, "Your Best Year Yet!" now translated into 17 languages and in its 20th printing in the U.K. She is a founder of the personal and executive coaching industry, having originated the process in the U.K. in 1981. Jinny is also the founder of
Best Year Yet®, a global business that has trained Program Leaders and Coaches who have worked with over 800 companies in 14 countries. To date, over a million people have used Best Year Yet® since its inception.
Jinny’s expertise is in coaching, facilitation, writing and speaking, and she’s recognized as a thought leader in the fields of organizational revitalization and personal transformation. She is a regular contributor to the Huffington Her passion is to make personal and organizational transformation simple and sustainable for people everywhere.
A regular contributor to the Huffington Post and Thrive, Jinny continues to write inspiring and informational pieces to help people create the life and business results they want in the areas that matter most. She is currently working on her next book "Your Best Life Yet!"
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